Posted on10 Aug 2012
Men are pretty much always ready for lovemaking (outside of those suffering from erectile dysfunction) so it doesn’t take much more than a rub in the right place or a suggestive look to get us in the mood. It’s a little different for most women though, particularly when a relationship has moved past the early hormonal stage into the long term stage. That’s when you have to work a little harder as a guy to get her into the mood for naughty play. The tips below should help you get a woman in the mood for wonderful lovemaking (some will apply only to particular stages of a relationship).
No matter where you are in your relationship, being a confident man is much more likely to help you into the bedroom with your lady. Confidence is the most attractive thing and most often cited by women when they list what they’re looking for in a mate. A confident man is going to be better at making love, he’s going to be a better father, and he’s going to be a better husband. It’s simple biology, really, so if you can maintain a level of outward confidence and show it you’ll have much greater luck in the bedroom.
If you’re deep enough into a relationship that you’re living together then a surprisingly effective way to get your woman in the mood is to take care of your responsibilities around the house. If you take out the trash, do the dishes, fold the laundry, etc, you will remove stress from her mind and put her in a place where she’ll be more receptive to your advances. It makes perfect sense if you think about it. Most people aren’t particularly interested in bedroom time when they’re all stressed out and if she’s annoyed that you’re not doing your part around the house then she’s going to be stressed and have very little interest in physical interactions with you.
Being a romantic will put her in the mood no matter the stage of your relationship. Romantic gestures tend to differ from relationship to relationship so it’s important to pay close attention to your lady and understand what would touch her heart. For some women it’s as simple as a card and flowers and for others more quirky gestures will do the trick. In general being a romantic means that you do things that make her feel loved and cherished whatever they may be. These actions are almost certain to put her in the mood to express that love physically.
It should go without saying, but if you stay in good shape you have a much better chance of putting her in the mood simply by making advances. A fit man with sexy muscles can put his lady in the mood by gently kissing her neck and wrapping his arms around her waist whereas a man with a beer gut will have a much harder time. Even if you’re in decent shape you’ll have a better chance of bringing her to the bedroom and having a great time than if you’re overweight and out of shape.
Touch is important for arousal and desire so be sure to initiate touch as often as possible. Hug her often and tell her that you love her (if you’re at that stage). Caress her gently to show your tender side and communicate your desire without having to say anything. Hold her hand when you’re walking and frequently stop to kiss her on the cheek or lips. Don’t be afraid to cuddle on the couch or when in bed. Prolonged physical contact and hugging may very well inspire desire in her and end up with the two of you coupling in the most pleasing way possible.
