Posted on10 Aug 2012
Your online dating profile is your first impression with every potential date so it has to be good. Thankfully it’s easier than you might think to create a profile that reads well and makes it easy to set up dates. Read the tips below and create the perfect profile.
Here are some helpful tips with creating an online profile . Your picture is the most important element of your profile. This is how people work. Physical attributes are the very first thing we judge and if a person passes that test we dig a little deeper to see if they’d make a good date or hook up. That’s why you need a good picture and if possible why you should put up multiple pictures. There are a few photo tips that might help, so read on. You can include a professional style photo or two but make sure you have some candid shots in there too. Always try and put up recent photos. If it’s obvious they’re old people are going to assume you look vastly different. Don’t limit the pictures to your face only. Again, people are going to assume you’re hiding something. Make sure you’re smiling and you look happy. Men and women are more attracted to happy!
The photo is step one but you need to nail the writing portion as well. Let’s help you with that. First, make sure you avoid sounding bitter and angry. Ever read a profile where all the person talks about is how dating is so hard, life is so difficult, and lists all the things they don’t want in a person? There is no bigger turn off. It reads, either consciously or subconsciously, like that person sees the world through a negative lens and would not be much fun to date, sadly. List the things you want in someone, talk about what you love about your life, etc.
Neediness and desperation are not good qualities and if your online dating profile reads like you’re either of those things potential dates will steer clear of you. By and large people want to date someone confident and independent that can be a great partner for them, not a clingy weirdo that wants to hold on and drag you down like an anchor. The more you ramble on about how you just want to find love and how you’ve been looking for so long the more likely a good mate is to pass on your profile and move somewhere else.
Nearly 40 million US singles have tried online dating, which means there’s a lot of competition out there. There’s someone for everyone, of course, but you need to stand out. Your profile is a great place to do that, so liven it up. A dry recitation of what you like is boring so make it interesting. Share some fun stuff about yourself and don’t be afraid to stand out. Again, this is a numbers game and with so many potential dates out there you should represent the real you in your profile so someone that matches the real you will send a message and ask you out.
The paragraph above hints at it but the point is worth making again: honesty is both smart and important in an online dating profile. If you’re not clear about what you want in a dating partner or hook up or you leave out important bits of information then you’re going to be disappointed. You’ll only have yourself to blame for any shortcomings with your online dating experience. If you’re clear about what you want then you’re much more likely to get it so don’t be afraid to both discover what you really want and to ask for it.
