Posted on11 Jan 2013
If you’re a single man and you’re out there looking then you could almost certainly use some dating advice. Every guy can, right? Perhaps you’ve had terribly bad luck over the years and there’s a good reason for it that you’ve been unable to see. Hopefully the following tips will point you in the right direction and help give you a successful dating experience.
Make sure you look good
After you find a date you need to prepare for that date and looking good starts with basic health and hygiene. You don’t need to have a six pack abs when you lift your shirt, but you should get rid of your beer gut if you have one. Chubby guys can certainly get dates, but women will be more impressed if you’re in good shape. Remember, you’re always being assessed for your viability as a long term partner, husband, and father, even if the woman isn’t consciously doing that. Most women figure you’ll put on some weight after marriage and fatherhood but if you start out chubby it’s a worrying sign and the best ladies will pass you by.
Remember that everything about your presentation says something about you, just like your online dating profile. That means you should present the best possible version of yourself on dates. If you only own drab clothes and scuffed up shoes it’s time to go to the store and refresh your closet. Your date will take note of everything. Your job is part of your presentation. Women don’t universally want to date a man in a particular type of profession but they do almost universally do want to date a man with ambition, drive, and goals in life. If you’re content to work at the local mini golf course for the rest of your life you will not land a girlfriend. This is important dating advice, so read it carefully.
Be prepared to carry on a conversation
It helps to have at least a general knowledge of what’s going on in the world so you don’t sound like an idiot when she brings up an international or domestic crisis. You’ve gone to the trouble to find a date, so go to the trouble to be educated about the world around you. If you know a little you should talk about it and then skillfully ask her questions so she’ll reveal a little more knowledge. Hone your conversation skills so you can spin whatever she says into something that sounds like an answer of your own. If you know nothing about a subject just admit and either ask her to educate you on it or move on to something else.
In conversation, it’s best not to come off as a booze hound and party guy. Don’t tell her about how you and your friends love to go out partying and drinking and carousing. Don’t tell her about any bar fights or crazy women you met and got wild with. Also, if you’re a huge fan of a sports team and she isn’t, try and keep your sports madness in check. You don’t want to scare her off. Plus, that stuff can make you look like a nerd and some women really aren’t into that, particularly if it’s about a subject they really don’t care about. If you’re online dating you can always cater your messages to girls that seem nerdy in that way, so you can share with them your passion.
Respect is important
In general, a woman likes to be treated with respect, so learn to act like a gentleman. You’re not be misogynistic if you open the door for her or know which fork to use first in a fancy restaurant. Being respectful includes not expecting sex on the first date. It might happen anyway, but if she feels like you expect her to jump into bed just because you paid for dinner (which you should always offer to do) she’s going to resent you and immediately end the date.
