Posted on28 Aug 2012
The first date is the most important, as you know. It’s the gateway to a beautiful long term relationship, a blistering short term love affair, a night of passionate sex, and more. Mess up that first impression and you’re done. Nail the first date and you can take the relationship anywhere you want and have a great time along the way. There are a few mistakes guys tend to repeat over and over again on that all important date and if you avoid them you’ll have a much better chance of success. Read on!
To get a date with a girl you have to charm her somehow. That can be a witty message online, a great phone conversation, a few good lines in a bar, etc. No matter how you do it you’re making an impression and if the guy that shows up on the first date is vastly different from the guy that made the first impression she’ll be confused, probably a little irritated, and ultimately uninterested. Don’t be that guy. When you make that first impression to get the date make sure you’re honest and yourself. Don’t put on an act you can’t hope to keep up because she’ll see through you eventually and her disappointment will drown out any good qualities you might have. Here is some first date advice that will help you have a wonderful first date.
An astounding number of guys make the mistake of failing to look at their date and make eye contact as often as possible without being creepy about it. Most often they do so because they’re shy or have some crazy reason for not looking at her but it always reads as if you’re not interested to the girl and what she thinks is the only thing that matters. If you’re sending signals that you’re not into her then she’s going to assume you’re not into her, obviously. Spending the entire date staring into her eyes longingly would be an equally bad idea but you should make an effort to stay engaged, maintain eye contact, and lean forward to show your interest. This is the most important first date tip of all.
Location selection for the first date is of great importance and if you screw it up there’s a good chance you’re not getting a second date. This one is pretty simple though. As long as you work to be unique you should be okay. Most girls have been on dinner and movie dates dozens of times so always avoid that. A restaurant is a decent idea since you can talk and if it’s a nice place or somewhere she’s never been she’ll probably like it. Something truly unique is always the best choice though. If you take her on a date she’s been on before you’ll blend in with all those other guys.
Don’t bring up any past relationships on the first date. This is a common mistake for guys that have just gotten out of a long term involvement and it’s a surefire way to turn her off and get her thinking about something else. She doesn’t care about your ex or about how she hurt you. She wants you to be thinking about her, not some other woman.
You’ve probably heard this before, but don’t bring up sex on the first date and make absolutely certain that you don’t sound like a pervert or sexual weirdo. Don’t go on about your favorite sexual positions or how you like it a little rough, etc. Even if you’re on a sex date you should shy away from such topics unless the girl brings it up. She’s going to be thinking about sex just like you are but she wants to know that you’re not a Neanderthal that thinks only of sex all the time before she’s willing to jump into bed with you. Be yourself, be a good guy, and have a good time on the date.
