Posted on22 Oct 2012
You’re no doubt here for dating advice and you’ll be pleased to know I have a little for you. Lots of guys have genuine troubles meeting women and getting dates, often because they simply don’t put themselves out there enough. I’ll help you find a date; what happens after that is up to you so get your crap together and don’t blow it. Ten tips for getting more dates follow.
1 Online dating
Online dating is the wave of the future and it’s the easiest way to find a date nowadays. There are free and paid options (the paid are almost always better, not surprisingly) and they all offer your scores of women to date. All it takes is putting yourself out there and you’ll have dates lined up for months to come. A relationship is certain to develop from that.
2 Approach lots of ladies
This one sounds obvious but most guys that struggle simply don’t do it. Most often it’s a confidence issue. If you’re certain you’ll be rejected or embarrassed you’re not going to talk to a girl. The point of talking is to get over that fear. Yeah, some girls are going to ignore you completely, some are going to be mean, and some are going to talk and go out on a date with you.
3 Use your friends
Guys and girls alike are far more likely to warm up to someone that’s been introduced by a friend. When someone vouches for you they’re answering a slew of questions that we ask ourselves about someone new. If a girl is freed from the need to wonder if you’re a psycho or a jerk because a friend vouched for you she can move right to the part where she considers you for a date.
4 Don’t be boring
As you talk to more women you’ll get a sense of what’s terribly boring and what keeps a lady interested. There’s no shame in having a few go to stories to get the conversation rolling or a few topics that you can speak intelligently on without being boring.
5 Drop your list of requirements
One of the classic qualities of a guy or girl that remains perpetually unsuccessful in dating is a list of requirements that each date has to meet. Those are utterly silly and nothing more than a road block to intimacy. Forget the list and go with what feels right. Your gut has a better sense of what you need than a silly list.
6 Confidence is key
Without fail the number one quality women look for in a man is confidence. Men look for it in women too, although they often call it different things (sexiness is nothing if not confidence in her body). This one is hard to conjure if it doesn’t come naturally, but with more experience you’ll get it.
7 Dress to impress
Guess what, women don’t want to date a slob or a guy that looks like he rolled out of bed in the morning, threw on a t-shirt, and walked out the door. Flip flops and shorts won’t cut it (unless you’re in the tropics). Also, if you want a girl to look great for a date then you should really be doing the same thing.
8 Banish the stink of desperation
Women can smell desperation on a guy from a mile away and they don’t like it. It’s woman repellent, basically. Even if you feel desperate you need to hide it.
9 Being a gentleman actually works
There’s a small percentage of women that find rude, arrogant jerks to be utterly irresistible. Those women have psychological issues you don’t want to get involved with. Instead, you want to be with a girl that loves a gentleman. Be a gentleman and you will attract those women.
10 Develop powers of observation
Every woman is different so if you use the same approach with each your chances of success go down. Men and women alike give cues to their personality in how they dress and behave. Learn to pick up on those cues and you can cater your approach, thereby giving you a leg up.
